How to charm the female mind
After I wrote lot on dating such ask " making of a man" brothers have been asking me " yo sheka what up with the blog man you speak truth" well now here come the deeper truth.
Ladies guys ponder the question, “What do women want?”—and find themselves
dumbfounded. Understanding the female mind isn’t that
difficult. I truly feel it is not difficult however if you need some direction? Here are some suggestions on how to understand — and woo — women.
Q: What is the number-one mistake that men make when trying to impress
women?
Sheka : When men feel insecure, they sometimes compensate by acting arrogantly or
being grandiose. As much as bragging about your car, house or big bank
account might initially get a woman’s attention, it will soon thereafter be
a major turn-off. Women like confidence and security, but they know that
only when those qualities are real, a man doesn’t have to throw them around
for show.
Q: What else would you warn men away from doing?
Sheka: Another thing healthy women find unappealing is when a man is too needy,
grabbing for too much of her attention and affection. That kind of behavior
communicates that there is not much else going on for him in terms of
friendships or intimate relations.
Q: Sheka do you think many women want to be “needed” by men?
Sheka: Sure, but there’s a fine line between “needing” a woman and being
“needy.” No self-respecting lady wants to be the man’s “everything”! It is
too much of a burden—and an impossible one to fulfill. If you want to find a
loving, well-rounded, happy female partner, you need to be loving,
well-rounded, and happy on your own and in your own unique ways.
Q: How much does a man’s physical appearance count in charming a woman?
A: Women value men who take care of themselves, just as men admire the same
in women. If he eats well, exercises, and takes a little time to think about
what he is wearing, it shows he has self-respect and honors the body that
was given to him. The subtext of this behavior is: “I like myself enough to
present myself well and make sure I have the energy to live life to the
fullest.”
Q: OK, what would you say is the one way a man can charm a woman? What’s his
best bet on that front?
Sheka: First and foremost, nearly any woman loves an attentive man who values
her thoughts, opinions, and feelings. You’ve probably heard it numerous
times, but it’s the truth: Women want to feel heard and considered
seriously. It’s not that a woman is just looking for someone to agree with
her. She wants to know that how she approaches life has an impact on him;
she wants to know that her ideas have been taken in and digested… hence she
matters and makes a difference.
Q: May I play devil’s advocate and ask why then are so many women seemingly
charmed by jerks?
Sheka: Often, it’s a function of one’s personal psychology. Much of that kind of
attraction has to do with being drawn to what hasn’t yet been worked out
from childhood wounds or painful experiences. People are often attracted to
the very thing that will bring up their old stuff; it’s the wisdom of the
unconscious pushing us to confront the things that need to be addressed and
healed. In this case, the old “it’s not you, it’s me” actually does come
into play quite a bit.
Q: Interesting! Last question: There are some men that women are just
instantly drawn to. What’s their secret?
Sheka: There is nothing more magnetic to love than love itself. When a man loves
his life, his friends, his job, he is incredibly magnetic. Additionally,
when he is as nice to the janitor as he is to the CEO of his company, he
shows heart, and most women are always drawn to kind men; I believe it’s
human nature. Ultimately, a man who is genuinely — and that’s the key:
genuinely — attentive, considerate, kind and chivalrous will always be able
to captivate a woman.
After I wrote lot on dating such ask " making of a man" brothers have been asking me " yo sheka what up with the blog man you speak truth" well now here come the deeper truth.
Ladies guys ponder the question, “What do women want?”—and find themselves
dumbfounded. Understanding the female mind isn’t that
difficult. I truly feel it is not difficult however if you need some direction? Here are some suggestions on how to understand — and woo — women.
Q: What is the number-one mistake that men make when trying to impress
women?
Sheka : When men feel insecure, they sometimes compensate by acting arrogantly or
being grandiose. As much as bragging about your car, house or big bank
account might initially get a woman’s attention, it will soon thereafter be
a major turn-off. Women like confidence and security, but they know that
only when those qualities are real, a man doesn’t have to throw them around
for show.
Q: What else would you warn men away from doing?
Sheka: Another thing healthy women find unappealing is when a man is too needy,
grabbing for too much of her attention and affection. That kind of behavior
communicates that there is not much else going on for him in terms of
friendships or intimate relations.
Q: Sheka do you think many women want to be “needed” by men?
Sheka: Sure, but there’s a fine line between “needing” a woman and being
“needy.” No self-respecting lady wants to be the man’s “everything”! It is
too much of a burden—and an impossible one to fulfill. If you want to find a
loving, well-rounded, happy female partner, you need to be loving,
well-rounded, and happy on your own and in your own unique ways.
Q: How much does a man’s physical appearance count in charming a woman?
A: Women value men who take care of themselves, just as men admire the same
in women. If he eats well, exercises, and takes a little time to think about
what he is wearing, it shows he has self-respect and honors the body that
was given to him. The subtext of this behavior is: “I like myself enough to
present myself well and make sure I have the energy to live life to the
fullest.”
Q: OK, what would you say is the one way a man can charm a woman? What’s his
best bet on that front?
Sheka: First and foremost, nearly any woman loves an attentive man who values
her thoughts, opinions, and feelings. You’ve probably heard it numerous
times, but it’s the truth: Women want to feel heard and considered
seriously. It’s not that a woman is just looking for someone to agree with
her. She wants to know that how she approaches life has an impact on him;
she wants to know that her ideas have been taken in and digested… hence she
matters and makes a difference.
Q: May I play devil’s advocate and ask why then are so many women seemingly
charmed by jerks?
Sheka: Often, it’s a function of one’s personal psychology. Much of that kind of
attraction has to do with being drawn to what hasn’t yet been worked out
from childhood wounds or painful experiences. People are often attracted to
the very thing that will bring up their old stuff; it’s the wisdom of the
unconscious pushing us to confront the things that need to be addressed and
healed. In this case, the old “it’s not you, it’s me” actually does come
into play quite a bit.
Q: Interesting! Last question: There are some men that women are just
instantly drawn to. What’s their secret?
Sheka: There is nothing more magnetic to love than love itself. When a man loves
his life, his friends, his job, he is incredibly magnetic. Additionally,
when he is as nice to the janitor as he is to the CEO of his company, he
shows heart, and most women are always drawn to kind men; I believe it’s
human nature. Ultimately, a man who is genuinely — and that’s the key:
genuinely — attentive, considerate, kind and chivalrous will always be able
to captivate a woman.
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