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Sunday, January 15, 2012

Ways you can tell if he is for the mind or the Booty.


Different people date for different reasons. Some do it only to have a good time while some may be seriously looking for a partner. When you are dating for the second kind of reason, it makes sense to ask yourself if your guy is equally interested in a serious relationship. here are ten clues to warn you if the guy you are seeing is only there for sex.

  1. He hangs about in the bar/pub most of the time
    Bars and nightclubs are undeniably the most popular venues to pick up dates and probably you too have done the routine some time or other in the past. But beware of a guy who seems to be practically living in these places and by now knows how many kids the red-haired waitress has. Such men find it easiest to pick up girls for casual sex at places like these and they are unlikely to bother going elsewhere.

  2. He uses cheesy pick up line
    A guy who is merely interested in sex is not likely to agonize over the right way to introduce himself to you. He will repeat the well worn-out lines from some tacky website or magazine and just about manage to sit through the routine of a dinner-and-movie until he knows he can get you in bed. If you are looking for a guy who in turn is looking for more than a sexual partner, find someone who takes pains to open a conversation and keep it going even when you make it clear that you turn in early tonight.
  3. He invites you over on the first/second date
    It is accepted wisdom to meet your date at a neutral place until you have established a level of trust and comfort with him/her. So stand warned if right on the first or second date, your guy asks you over for a nightcap. Alternatively he might not be comfortable about letting you into his own pad and may try really hard to invite himself over to your place. Either way, if he seems insistent on being with you alone late into the night, it is most likely that he is simply looking to seduce you.

  4. He runs out of date ideas
    Once you have gone out for a dinner and a dance with this guy, he will probably run out of ideas on what next to do – unless you can join him in a sexual romp. Only a man who attracted to you as a person would try and come up with creative date ideas that include fun, shared activities and the outdoors and not merely look for shack on the beach where he can lock himself in with you.
     
  5. You don’t have any common interests
    One of the surest signs that a relationship is bound to go no further than sex is when that is all that binds you to your partner. If you find that you share no hobbies or interests with your guy, it is an indication that his attraction to you is virtually limited to sex. A meaningful relationship will always have common grounds like a mutual love for country music or a shared passion for travel. Even a broad spectrum of activities like outdoor pursuits or culinary interests can bind couples to one another on a deeper and more satisfying level.
     
  6. He is reluctant to spend time with you
    He isn't too keen to spend time with you unless he knows you are going to have sex. Sunday afternoon picnics in the park or a casual stroll through the town museum never seem to figure in your relationship with this guy. The only times when you are together is either when he is getting you in the mood for sex or he is having a post-coital cup of coffee with you. The absence of quality time spent together foreshadows the lack of real bonding between a couple and means that his interest in you goes no further than sex.
     
  7. He leaves right after doing it
    The time after making love is one of the most intimate phases for a woman when she feels a deep and emotional connection with her partner. While psychologists differ on whether the same is true for a man, there is no doubt that if a man is really in love with his partner he will cherish her desire for some post-coital bonding. On the other hand, if he simply gets up and leaves with some sorry excuse about having to put in overtime, you know that there is nothing other than sex which will keep him with you.
     
  8. He is emotionally unavailabl
    Much has been said about love preceding sex for women while for men sex is equal to being in love. Despite such nuggets of pop wisdom, there is no denying the fact that a guy who is emotionally unsupportive of his partner is hardly relationship-material. Man or woman, every individual needs some kind of emotional bonding with a close partner – it is after all what makes us human. But if you find that you cannot get a word of support from your guy on a rough day or some sign of empathy when you are upset, it is certain that you have no use for him unless as someone to relieve his sexual itch.
  9. He ogles at women
    whether behind your back or right under your nose. This kind of behavior is the surest proof of the fact that to this guy, women are little more than objects of sexual interest.
     
  10. Other subtle ways
    Finally, there is also the guy who will use a subtler way of getting you in his bed. He will wine and dine you and even shower you with romantic gifts and getaways. The clue to finding about the real intentions of such a guy is to sound him out on the issue of commitment. If he sees that you have definite ideas on a meaningful relationship and do not consider courtship merely as an appetizer to sex, he will surely cool off and turn to the next most willing subject.

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